So I dont know what to think…
My ex contacted me all last summer. his gf got pissed (understandably) and he told me (after I asked him to) that we cant talk anymore. he said he couldnt be happy in his relationship if we were talking b/c it was causing too many problems. I said “ok, but you’ll see that you wont be able to do it.” I held down my part and didnt contact him.
Not even a week later I recieved a facebook friend request from him (He deleted me when he got mad at me several months prior) and the next day i had a message on myspace from him saying that he drove by my place and he thought he saw my car “hard to miss the car that I found for you haha!” then he commented on my profile picture asking if i went to a cubs game that previous weekend (b/c I had a cubs shirt on and was in stands at a concert) and that he had gone to one that weekend. the message was super upbeat. I was so confused so i sent him a text saying “I thought u couldnt be happy if we were talking” he responded and said “you’re right, I’m sorry. I was not thinking.” that was in August I believe. Also, I never told him which apartment was mine; just that I was living in that area. there are about 20 different buildings in that area and I’m off a small street that if you dont live off of it, you dont need to go on it. But his roommate had been to my place once b/c i was friends w/his gf. So maybe he told him but…..Why?**
i hadnt talked to him since that point and then, at the end of Sept, he follows me home from work! now he may have been driving behind me on his way running errands but he actually pulled into my apartment complex and parked by me. Again, he’s like, “I thought that was your car.” I stayed about 10 feet away and kept my excitement down. Just like “oh hi, nice to see you.” He was very excited to tell me that he was doing very well with work and that he might be up for a promotion and is looking to buy his first house. We didnt do much more contact after that but I did send him holiday greetings for thanksgiving and we caught up here and there. the messages were fine; he said he was happy to hear from me. But out of nowhere I noticed I’m blocked. I’m like wtf? I assumed it was b/c of his gf.
Well, I’m still blocked but every now and then I’ll send him an e-mail at his normal address and he’ll respond right away and tell me how successful he is with his job and his new house….no word about the gf though. A little background info: he thought I broke up with him because it didnt seem like he was going anywhere in life. Well, now he’s back to not responding to me. I last heard from him April 5th. What is the freaking deal??
I sent him one last week and said I understand that I shouldnt be contacting you but if you could tell me not to, it would be so much easier. NOTHING. I know guys are different, but if I was in his shoes and was in a relationship i wanted to keep (if that’s the case), I would tell the ex to leave me alone!
I know what I SHOULD do: leave him alone and move on…Yeah, I’m workin on the moving on part; not working
But my question is, why is he doing what he’s doing?
