I received a rather disturbing myspace message from an old friend tonight. I was called out on quite a few things that were not true, so I responded to clear some things up. I am posting this because it both annoys me and amuses me at the same time. Ignorance tends to have that effect on me. So here is the message I received ….
“Hey you little orbiting Satellite, are you getting a taste of every women these days or nights , deviant wouldnt be an admirable characteristic in my book , but these days its probably cool or something. Sexual anarchy , like that just as much as Nymphet37. Can you be more original, i know you have more depth to your personality than sexual anarchy, it pretty easy to achieve when your a woman dont you think ……….it seems to me that your myspace name and headline are clear indications that your easy and dirty at the same time. Wow what a breakthrough, Most women are not willing to disclose there personal sexual agenda and or motives so freely , i thought thats what made women appealing and mysterious was the not knowing……..but you managed to some yourself up in just 4 words , congradulations. But this is myspace a world onto itself , so let the freebirds be free , and if i offended you or somethings ive said seem insulting they are not and i apologize, you sexy bitch ………”
THIS WAS ME RESPONSE TO HER:
First of all, learn how to spell. Second of all, do not make judgments on anything you do not know enough about. “Sexual anarchy” happens to be a sociological framework through which to study sex and intimate relationships. Sexual anarchy is an inside joke from one of my courses. I see that you did not have any clue that it was a sociological term (for obvious reasons). Also, if you knew what the theory of sexual anarchy was you would know that your following comments made no sense.
I AM easy and dirty. Do you have a problem with that? I am not constrained by the morality of the masses. I am not a sheep following the herd, as you may be although you will never admit it to yourself. I am “deviant” according to society because I create my own life; design my own morality. My moral code does not consist of traditional scripts for proper feminine behavior. I am not a piece of meat to be sought. I seek and I take what I want. Easy in your definition would not suffice in describing me. I do not “easily” “give” myself over to people. I only do what I want to do when I want to do it. I always have. Your conception of “dirty” would not do me justice either. I am dirty because I like sex? I am dirty because I am not chaste? Chastity is an unknown virtue for me. But that does not leave me devoid of virtue. I have plenty of that. More than you will ever know in your life. I have ambition. A plan for my life. A plan for meaning, for purpose. What is yours?
So quickly to judge little one. Mystery is a little package of female sexual agendas and motives wrapped up in a pretty pink bow? Well, I do not buy into your conception of femme mystery. I do not need to appear mysterious so that ignorant heterosexual white men can desire me. My “non-mysterious” sexual appetite will not make me any less appealing to those I want to desire me. In fact, I would prefer that typical men do not desire me. I am weeding out those I deem unimportant. (Sad to say that you now fit in that group, but maybe you always had) I do not need to keep my sexuality a mystery, because my alluring mystery is within me. No one can ever truly know anyone else. My dark corners are yet to be discovered… and they will never be fully excavated. Those who want to peer in will only get a glimpse- and that is my mystery.
In my world, we are all free to define life for ourselves. I have broken from the shackles of socialization. I will not have a cookie-cutter life. I have never been more proud to be who I am. I have rejected all traditional notions of femininity and I have transcended my situation handed down to me by this patriarchal social order.
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to conceal the person's identity]